Seek NOT to control !
Everywhere I look, people tell other people what they cannot do. They beleive they know better and so they seek to protect. Their compassion manifests arrogance and control. And most of the time the need to control comes from fear.
The spiritual community are not immune, and in fact, are quite often the worst offenders.
One group I am involved with has recently highlighted this. There are two main ‘courses’ that members do, a main course and an advanced course. This year, the advanced course is followed immediately by a main course, and so many of the advanced members will be able to mix with new members who have not yet done a course.
New members of the group, committed to doing the first course, but not yet having done it, are “protected” from influence by older members of the group through strict rules. This is supposedly in the best interests of the new members, but is actually based on what the group organisers fear will hurt the new members.
Older members are only allowed non-tangible support of new members. This is supposedly to protect the new members from being overloaded by the information and healing that older members may be able to offer them, being in different modalities and thought patterns than the course itself, before they have done the initial course that brought them into the group. They are thus being protected from being overloaded, confused or taken in a direction the organisers would prefer they did not go, at least not now.
On the face of it, fair enough. Surely, some may be.
However, there are a number of assumptions going on here that should be questioned.
It is assumed that all new members are at the beginning of their healing path and as such will be overwealmed if exposed to too much too fast. This is not true. I for one was one who joined this group at the end of my main healing journey, not the beginning. I was already fully in my power, as were others. People join the group at all stages of their journey, and their needs are diverse, as are their reasons for joining the group.
It is assumed that until the course is done, other things the new members may be exposed to will not be good for them. Simple arrogance.
It is assumed that new members should not exercise their own free will to explore what older members know and do, before doing the course (they have already committed to) because of what may potentially happen to them. One should not usurp free will for any reason !
It is assumed that the course is the main reason for doing the course and joining the group. For most, maybe so. But for some, their reason for joining the group is to connect to some of the older members specifically for what they can offer, and to connect to future members when they appear, and the course itself is a mechanism for communication, not a necessary teaching they need.
It is assumed that individual guidance cannot be trusted because the course has not yet been done. Also arrogance that ignores the previous part of the individual’s journey.
It is assumed that karma and life lessons go on hold as soon as you commit to the course and join the group, that until the course is done, new members should be protected from any karmic or lesson events. Karma and Life lessons will manifest anyway. You cannot protect people from their own karma and lessons, and if these should manifest through older members of the group, so be it, that is as should be.
It is assumed that a new member does not need specific healing or guidance that an older member can offer before the course. In actual fact, many new members may be in need of healing and guidance before the course that will then allow them to get the most out of the course itself. They are guided to the mechanism that joins them with those they need to seek out before the course, for their benefit for the course.
It is assumed that the new member should not be exposed to a different way of thinking before the course, which seems to ignore that everyone thinks differently already, is coming from a different perspective and thought path, has different skills already that define their way of thinking, and that not all new members will in fact have their thinking altered by doing the course. Again, some new members may need the wisdom of alternate thought before the course in order to get the most out of the course.
In allowing assumptions to make policy, we usurp the free will of the new member to make their own choices.
In allowing assumptions to make policy, we usurp the guidance of the ArcAngels, Angels and Guides, that a new member follows.
In allowing assumptions to make policy, we allow lack of control and fear of uncontrollable events to usurp karma and life lessons of new members.
Ironically, this is all exactly the opposite of what this particular course is trying to teach. One also wonders if some adjenda is in play as well, and what fears this is based in.
Seek not to control others. Allow them to interact as they choose and to choose as they are guided.
Instead, be there to support them however such interactions manifest.
(Thanks to AA’s Gabriel, Michael and Raphael for input into this article.)

